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While this tumblog attempts to be a safe space for everyone, certain realities of the industry might make it uncomfortable at times. It's a job strife with racism, sexism, transphobia, and homophobia, and is sometimes hard to deal with. It's not harder to deal with than any other customer service job though.
If you don't know the difference between consensual sex work and trafficking, you don't belong here.
correllation and causation are still different things. There’s lots of sex workers that have had shit happen in the past. Same goes for EVERY job.
There’s sex workers who haven’t had shit happen either.
Only you know what you can do safely and what you can’t. I’m not qualified to give a dissertation on what misguided researchers think about our experiences.
BUT, it’s something that’s been discussed. go to tumblr.com/tagged/sex worker problems and you’ll see the issues people face.
This makes me sound like a dick, but fuck what he says, it’s your job and your life. IF you wanna do it, then do it, if you don’t, then don’t.
It’s a healthy choice if it isn’t being coerced in any way.
But it might help to make a list of PTSD triggers and keep those in mind when you’re screening clients and choosing what kind of activities you engage in. These boundaries will be different depending on what kind of sex work you’re engaged in, so keep that in mind.
I don’t know of any etiquette - honestly if your client vanishes, and especially if he was a regular, his wife probably caught on. (imo)
By no means are these friendships, he’s paying for a service. Friendly, not friends.
I had that happen a few times and they’d come back in a month or so, different number, you’ll recognize him if he does most likely.
If I’m missing what you mean, come back, anon, and lemme know. :)
Depends on what kind of gross. I’ve just kinda held my nose and dealt because he was a great tipper, and I’ve also turned guys away. When they say something gross I’ve ignored it generally.
If you’re eating a client’s ass and that’s gross then use a flavored dental dam. Flavored lube can also help if it’s stinky dick. Covered blowjobs are good for smegma clients (uncut dick that isn’t clean).
If it’s possible, introduce shower play into the session to clean out any nasty stuff.
Anyone else wanna chip in on their gross clients? I can only speak from escort experience.
Camming with gross clients would be different - you’d be able to block them, for example.
Stripping would be different, too.
But it’s a balance of your strong stomach versus your need for cash. My need for cash was great enough that I handled some pretty gross stuff for it.
As recently as 1991, police in a southern California community closed all rape reports made by prostitutes and addicts, placing them in a file stamped “NHI.” The letters stand for the words “No Human Involved.” (Linda Fairstein, Sexual Violence: Our War Against Rape, 1993, New York, William Morrow.)